We’ve all been there.
You like them, they like you, and you have tons of chemistry—but, for some reason, it just doesn’t progress into a meaningful, committed relationship. It sucks, but sometimes there are signs it’s not meant to be with the person you like no matter how much you want it.
Sure enough, the universe has its own way of telling you.
First thing’s first, things never seem straightforward with the two of you.
You look at other happy couples and everything seems so easy and carefree, but not with you guys. There’s always something going on that gets in the way of you two just biting the bullet and committing already—and do you know what? It feels exhausting.
If you both want to be together, then you should be. It really is that simple, and if it’s not for you two as a pair, this is one of the key signs it’s not meant to be.
Signs it’s not meant to be 101: the timing is never right.
Perhaps you’re just about to move across the country for a new job or they’re about to fulfill their life-long dream of travelling the world. Either way, the timing is never quite right for you guys to make a go of it.
Maybe it often seems like you’re finally getting somewhere, but then something else gets in the way again? In any case, you always feel frustrated and it isn’t cool.
Due to these frustrations, you can’t help but constantly argue or bicker—even before you’ve become an official thing.
Your fights might be over something silly like the fact that they never separate the recycling properly, or they could be more serious like how strongly you feel about how terrible Donald Trump is.
Regardless, sometimes it seems like you two argue about every little thing, which is unlikely to lead to a happy, prosperous relationship.
Another of the key signs it’s not meant to be?
You’re not opening up and talking to each other, but your bedroom is seeing more action than a Marvel superhero movie.
Maybe one of you is emotionally unavailable or maybe you just don’t like the same things, but if the only place that you truly connect is in the bedroom, then there’s a serious problem.
Let me guess—things seem to be going great, but then one of your exes pops up out of nowhere to cause trouble.
Whether it’s yours or theirs, there are feelings involved that suddenly stops the relationship with your crush in its tracks. You now see each other as more of an option instead of the only choice.
One word: doomed.
Perhaps one of the biggest signs it’s not meant to be is when you keep misunderstanding each other, therefore you keep hurting each other.
For instance, they might be under the impression that you’re seeing other people but you think you’re both already exclusive. This leaves you sobbing into a big tub of ice-cream in the house on a Friday night because your BFF has just called you to tell you that she caught them cheating with a random lass in a dive bar.
You what, Sandra? SAY IT AIN’T SO. Wah.
Perhaps you’re older than them and ready to settle down, whereas they’re out every Friday and Saturday night partying with their friends. You know, like it’s 1999. (Or vice versa.)
Either way, it’s quite apparent that you both want different things or you have varying priorities. However, it’s so hard to ignore your feelings and listen to your logical side—am I right?
One of the ultimate signs it’s not meant to be? Something about your relationship isn’t right and deep down you know it.
In fact, you go for so long with everything feeling like it’s alright; but then, soon enough, the seed of doubt slowly creeps back in again. Darn it.
You want this to work pretty badly, but it just doesn’t look like that’s in the cards. Humph.
You can’t deny the signs it’s not meant to be where loved ones are involved.
Say that you’re close to your family and/or friends and your crush can’t stand to be in the same room as them or vice versa. Whenever everybody’s together, it feels strained and unpleasant and it’s putting you both in a really awkward position.
I mean, if this is what it’s like now, what makes you think anything’s going to change in the future?
There are no guarantees, but one thing’s for sure: you should both be making a huge effort with each other’s loved ones if you’re determined to make it work. If you’re not, or if one party isn’t all in, then there’s a problem. Soz.
Finally, one of the most prominent signs it’s not to be is when you’re always yearning for more.
Perhaps everything looks good on paper and the relationship should absolutely be working out; but, the truth is, it’s not. For whatever reason, you’re slowly but surely finding that what they’re giving you isn’t enough and you always want more—or maybe it’s the other way around.
Either way, you guys just aren’t gelling or complimenting each other. In this case, it’s time to cut your losses and move on.
I know it’s difficult, but you can’t ignore all these signs that it’s not meant to be.
Ultimately, you both deserve optimum happiness—and if you’re not getting it from each other, then perhaps it’s time to call it a day.
You’ve got this, boo.
Leggings – Topshop
Boots – UGG (similar here)
Puffer Coat – Topshop
Handbag – Coach (similar here)
P.S. If you’re wondering why I’m all bundled up with the USA flag in the background, it’s because these photos were taken in Wisconsin where it’s currently freezing cold!
Have you been in a situation where there are signs it’s not meant to be? Let me know about your experiences in the comments below!