Galentine’s Day might not yet be an official holiday, but that doesn’t make it any less special in 2019.
What’s Galentine’s Day I hear you ask?
Well, it’s the day before Valentine’s Day where you celebrate your lady friends instead of your other half. Only a few years old, it’s all about spoiling the inspirational women in your life, whether this is through a wine and pizza night or by getting your BFF that Topshop purse she’s had her eye on for a while.
Is it a single girl’s alternative to Valentine’s Day? No. Can I not take part because I’m in a relationship? Also no.
If you know me well, you’ll know that I’m not one for materialism – but there’s something about this Galentine’s Day thing that has got me jumping on board faster than you can say squad goals. Allow me to explain why.
Being a sensitive Sally, my friends mean a lot to me and I think it’s important to always show your loved ones how grateful you are to have them in your life.
After all, life’s too short and you never know what might happen from one day to the next. You have to appreciate what and who you have in your life while you have it and them, because it’s true what they say: you never know what you’ve got until it’s gone.
I’ve been through a lot with my gal pals over the years and I like the idea of celebrating the fact that we’ve all come through the other side through a specific event.
Life’s certainly not easy when you’re young, especially when you’re in your twenties and you get a heck of a lot thrown at you in terms of guys, school, the people you meet and your career. Therefore, the fact that the girls in my life have stuck with me through thick and thin is kind of a miracle. And this makes me realise that they care about me just as much as I care about them.
We all go through that spell when we’re young and dumb where we take our loved ones for granted.
Case in point: when I was in my previous relationship, we moved across the country for a while away from everyone and everything I knew. In the process, I sacrificed my friendships, only to get a nasty shock when my relationship didn’t work out.
Why? Well, I’d drifted from all my girls. I’d unintentionally put my ex first and my friends on the back-burner – and I was horrified that I’d become one of “those” people who I never said I’d be. You know, the type that ditches their friends for their other half. Ew. That being said, I’m kind of glad I did it once because it’s made me determined never to make the same mistake again.
You could have five boyfriends in your life but you’ll only have one set of core friends. True story.
Your friends are for life, not just for Christmas. And any occasion that celebrates this fact, like Galentine’s Day, I can get fully on board with.
Yes, I might be coupled up again and adamant I’ve met my match in love, but it doesn’t mean I don’t care for my galentines just as much.
I mean, it might be a different kind of love but it’s just as intense.
It’s a love you can only develop after hundreds of nights out where you’ve had one too many drinks, made fools of yourselves and continually had to clean vomit out of Susan’s hair. It’s a love that has grown and developed as you’ve been through multiple schools, jobs and boyfriends together. It’s a love that has blossomed and simultaneously been nurtured through good and bad times.
And it’s a love that will undoubtedly last a lifetime.
(Periods, for one.)
Is it me or can you just not bond with anyone like you can bond with your girls? It probably comes from having years of memories and experiences together, but there’s some kind of special glue that holds the relationship with your gal pals together. Am I right?
Perhaps it’s because friends are the family that we choose for ourselves. We have to make a special effort to go out of our way to see them as we get older, otherwise, we never would. And with less time and energy on our hands, we only want to bother with the ones who are truly spectacular.
As you get older, it goes without saying that busy schedules mean that you don’t get to see your best friends as often – and it’s a crying shame.
However, Galentine’s Day can remedy that – especially if you put a plan in place to use it as an excuse to get everyone together around the same time every year.
Or if you can’t manage that one year for whatever reason, use the opportunity to send a silly Snapchat or a heartfelt message to your loved ones to remind them how much you care.
Admittedly, I’ve yet to celebrate the actual day through Galentine’s Day gifts or gatherings. Instead, I’m going to make sure I let my girls how much they mean to me some way or another around this annual occasion.
This year, I’ve already done my bit by gathering the troops for my boyfriend and I’s send-off party before we head to New Zealand for a year of working, travelling and adventure.
Whatever you do, I think we should all embrace Galentine’s Day with positivity and enthusiasm. Ultimately, it’s a way of being grateful for the girls in your life who you wouldn’t be able to live without.
Shoutout to the special women in my life: my Mum, my sister Nic, and my girls Vanessa, Sarah Berry, Amy, Juliet, Tasha, Hannah and Taroneh. You’re my female soulmates. Happy Galentine’s Day!
How are you spending Galentine’s Day this year? Let me know in the comments!